Lately, I've been busy handing out little 1ml bottles to girls at my children's school. The kids LOVE the "nice smelling things" that my kids wear to school in their diffuser necklaces, and every time they see me, they ask for some diffuser necklaces, and every time they see me, they ask for some.
Then one day after school, I bumped into one of my son's classmates and her mom in the school office. The girl asked me, "Can I have some oils, please?"
Her mom overheard and asked, "What are you asking?"
I explained that her daughter liked the essential oils that my kids wear to school and wanted to have some.
Then the mom turned to her daughter and told her, "You do not ask for things. It is rude to ask."
Is it rude to ask?
Honestly, I was a little shocked. It is rude to ask? Are you kidding me?
If you don't ask, how do people know what you want? If this is what we teach our kids, and they believe in that, how is that mentality going to impact their lives?
You don't ask for what you want because it is rude to do so. So you sit around, hoping others can figure you out and give that to you?
You work your butt off in your career, hoping that someone will notice your effort and give you a raise or promotion?
You keep up with everything at home and with the kids, giving everything you have, and then assume your husband just know exactly what your needs, what you need help with and just come to fulfill them?
You are not going to ask for help because you believe it's rude.
I simply think that this mentality of "it is rude to ask" is damaging to our children, to our next generation.
Ask and You Shall Receive
My children ask me for things all the time. They are not shy to ask. And they do not stop asking until they get what they want.
We were like that when we were little kids. But somewhere along the way of growing up, we were told that it was rude to ask, it was weak to ask, or whatever. Not only then have we forgotten how to ask, we even lost clarity about what we want.
Jesus says, "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you."
So please kids, keep asking!